Change...... Getting What We Want.

   It's amazing how often we try to change someone to no avail. To boot, our efforts often simply make things worse.
   Maybe we don't like how a person is behaving or reacting. Something doesn't happen the way we want it to. And on it goes.....
   Have you ever gotten upset because someone won't change and do things the way you want them to? I know I have.
   Is it possible to change an outcome? Is it possible to change our own behavior and as a result, the other person will have to change their behavior and the way they deal with us?
   Absolutely it is. How can we make these things happen?
   First, let me share one of my favorite reflective sayings:   "When you are facing problems and challenges and things are not going the way you want, go look in the mirror. Therein lies the cause to your problems and challenges..... and therein lies the solution."
   Most of us have been conditioned all of our lives to place blame on someone else when things don't go the way we desire. Wait a minute! This just may be why life isn't heading toward our dreams!
   Everything we do in life has a consequence, whether it be direct or indirect.
   The best way to change an outcome is to change what we do. Maybe we need to become more focused and disciplined. Maybe we need to set goals. Maybe we need to find passion in what we are doing..... Having the awareness to realize that anger will rarely ever result in our getting what we want is an excellent place to start.
    How can we affect someone's behavior? By changing our own. When we change the way we interact with someone or the way we speak with them, or maybe we finally decide to not get angry anymore..... any of these will result in the other person having to change how they deal with us.
   Is there anyone in your life that seems to light your fuse more than anyone else? A business partner? A sibling? A Spouse? An ex-spouse? Decide ahead of time not to react to them from this point forward and see what happens. They just may become easier to deal with. (A direct result of you becoming easier to deal with).
    Do you have a dream for your life? Is your life happening this way? Are you making progress toward your dreams and goals?
   No? Reflect on this question..... Why not?
   If you're not getting what you want, then you most likely need to change the what and how of your daily habits.
    What's the adage.....? If you're not getting what you desire doing what you're doing, why in the world would you keep on doing the same thing day after day?!
    Dare to Pursue Your Dreams!
    Dream! Commit! Act!
    What are you waiting for?
   Action cures fear! Go for it!